In the past few years of trying to lose weight I have learned that before you can start losing weight you have to come to terms with why you are overweight in the first place. This isn’t about placing the blame on anyone, it’s about getting to the root of the problem.
You can’t blame genetics. I don’t know how many people say that their whole family is overweight so they are going to be too. Genetics may play a part in your metabolism, but all you get from your family is bad habits. I used to blame genetics, but not anymore.
Since I said that I was going to be open with you and share my experiences, I thought I would share with you what I have discovered about why I am overweight. The sad part is, I just came to this revelation recently.
I have no self-control.
It seems stupid, but this is my issue, and it started when I was very young. Growing up my mom restricted what I ate. For example, I could only have 2 Oreos at a time or 10 chips at a time. I know that they are the serving sizes for those foods, but as a child it was torture. If I had been able to eat what I wanted, I wouldn’t have eaten more that 3 or 4 Oreos, but I didn’t have control. I know why my mom did it, because she didn’t want me to be overweight just like her. Growing up, I was restricted in what I could eat, while my mom and step-dad ate cookies all the time, so I thought that once I was an adult I would be able to eat as much as I wanted, and I did.
I moved in with my husband, at that time my fiance, at 18 years old. I also started nursing school the same year. There were a lot of things at play during this time that contributed to 60 pounds of weight gain over a few years.
First, I finally had control. I had control over what I was eating and if I wanted to eat a whole bag of Oreos in one sitting, I would, because no one was telling me I couldn’t.
Second, I was in nursing school. This led to a very sedentary lifestyle, meaning I wasn’t moving as much as I was used to.
I worked for minimum wage. This led to poor food choices because I had to eat what I could afford. I didn’t take out student loans, so I was paying for school out of pocket, with my fiance’s help, but we still had limited funds.
I had to work all the time to keep up with the bills. If I wasn’t in school, I was working, that’s how it worked. If I wasn’t working or in school I was sleeping or studying. This lead to a lot of fast food stops for lunch or dinner.
Lastly, I started on birth control pills. One of the side effects is weight gain, and even though I don’t think this was the sole cause of my weight gain, I don’t think it helped.
I mentioned I have issues with self-control, and this isn’t just with junk food. I have tried many times in the past to eat healthier, and I would, but I would still eat way too much! You can eat all the salad you want, but if you are still eating more calories than you are burning, you won’t lose weight.
All of these carried on for several years, and now I am working to change all of this. There are a lot of bad habits that I am trying to fix, but over time I believe that I can fix them.
I still lead a very sedentary life. I work from home and I am a blogger, so this means a lot of time spent on the computer. Many people think that having an almost 2 year old daughter would keep me active, but I don’t have a large house so even if I let her run free, there wouldn’t be much chasing. She is very good for a toddler and entertains herself well, so I don’t need to entertain her, hence the ability to work from home.
I am making better food choices, not only for me, but for my family. We don’t eat out much and I make everything at home from scratch so I know it’s healthier. In fact, we have even saved money by eating at home more.
I am working out more. I get up early every morning to workout so that I am moving more. This means I go to bed earlier and have less free time at night, but in the end it will be worth it. I have even found that I am more productive during the day when I workout.
I still struggle when people are eating in front of me, or when there is junk food in the house. I try not to buy it, but my husband doesn’t have a weight issue and I don’t want to penalize him because of my issues.
The issues that I have are generally the same issues that every overweight person has. They eat too much, they eat unhealthy foods, or the don’t move enough, and all of these lead to weight gain. I know I can make these positive changes in my life, and I encourage you to do the same.
Have you discovered why you are overweight? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments so we can all help each other!