When I was younger I always looked forward to a time when I was an adult and didn’t have to answer to anyone. I thought being an adult would be fun and I would get to do anything I wanted.
Boy was I wrong! I think this is the hardest part of growing up, realizing that being an adult is not as easy as you think.
I thought for sure that being an adult I would be able to make my own rules and do whatever I wanted. While this is true to a point, there are still a lot of rules I have to follow. The hardest part of growing up is knowing that even though you can make your own rules, you still have to listen to someone else.
For example, I have to go to work and pay bills. Boy what I wouldn’t give to go back to a time when I didn’t have to pay bills and I could just spend my money however I wanted.
Trust me kids, if you think growing up is all rainbows and butterflies, think again. I wish my parents would have talked to be about bills growing up. My parents always thought they should keep finances hidden from us kids and I think that was a big mistake.
I knew that bills were a thing, I mean I knew that my mom had to pay the electric bill to keep the power on and the gas bill to keep the heat on, but that was about all I knew. When I was 11 years old my mom moved in with her boyfriend and we (my brother and I) moved in with her obviously. The house had been given to my step dad by his parents, which was nice for them, but my mom could never tell me about mortgages and applying for loans because my mom never had a loan.
When I got out on my own I had no idea what I was in store for. All of a sudden I went from not having any bills to having to pay rent, and electric bill, pay for groceries, car maintenance and everything else. Thankfully I had my husband (fiance at the time) to help out, but it was still a rude awakening. I thought I would have all this time and money and I didn’t because I had to work to pay bills. Since I was working for minimum wage and paying for school it seemed like every time I got paid the money disappeared faster than it appeared.
As you can see, I think learning about paying bills and learning just how much those bills cost is the hardest part of growing up. For this reason I will make sure that I discuss finances with my children when they are old enough.
What do you think is the hardest part of growing up?
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