My husband’s biological dad is transgender.
There, I said it. I can remember when my husband and I started dating and my best friend told me, I didn’t know what to think. Many people wonder what it is like and how we handle it. To be honest, up until just recently, many people didn’t even really acknowledge the transgender community, but there has been a lot of things in the media recently that have helped to raise awareness.
I recently learned a lot about her past (and yes, I refer to her as she or her because that is the gender she identifies with). I am not going to tell all her secrets because they are not mine to tell, but just know that she struggled for a long time about her feelings and how to deal with them. She grew up in a very religious household, meaning that because she was born biologically male, she needed to act like a male. That is what she tried to do for many years.
As for our family, we accept her and love her for who she is. My daughter, who is almost 2, doesn’t see her as the transgender person, she sees her as grandma, and she is a wonderful grandmother.
When my husband and I started dating and I was told about his biological father, I didn’t know what to think at first. I didn’t know how I would handle it or how I would explain it to my family. Once I met her and got to know her, I didn’t care about her past, and neither did my family.
As for my daughter, when she is old enough, I may explain it to her. That will be between my husband and I.
Having a transgender mother-in-law is not all that different than just having a mother-in-law.
Many people still do not understand what it is to be transgender. For example, I have had people ask me about my husband and if I ever wonder if he will turn out “like his father”. First off, no I don’t worry that my husband is transgender because it is not inherited. Second, his biological father is incredibly loving and compassionate so if he turn out just a little like that, that’s great! Lastly, I love my husband and if he ever came to me and said he thought he might be transgender I would still love and support him.
I have also had people ask about if I worry about my children ever turning out transgender. The answer to this is no. Again, it is not inherited, I worry more about my children becoming diabetic as both grandfathers are diabetic. Lastly, if one of my children told me they thought they were transgender, I would support them and love them.
Many people also want to know my opinion on Caitlyn Jenner. To be honest, I don’t think much. She’s brave, yes, but there were transgender actresses before her. Also, I think my mother-in-law is braver because she came out before much was known about being transgender and to a very religious family. I believe my mother-in-law overcame more challenges to being transgender.
I love my mother-in-law and she is a wonderful grandmother. Having a transgender mother-in-law is not that different.
Do you know someone who is transgender? I love answering questions, so do you have any questions? I will answer the best I can!