As parents we always have guilt about something. We feel guilty about how we feed our children, what clothes we put on them, where we send them to school and so much more. You may not believe it, but even stay at home moms have guilt.
Stay-at-home mom guilt is just as confusing as any other “mom guilt”. You are guilty about anything and everything, so today, I thought I would share with you my stay at home mom guilt (from before I was a work-at-home mom, because that is another post).
I am guilty that I don’t work. I feel guilty that my husband has to work even more to ensure we have the money we want to get the things we need and want. I feel guilty that I am not contributing, even though I am contributing a small amount by working on weekends.
I feel guilty when talking to friends and family. Some days are hard, some harder than others, and I feel guilty when I talk to others about how hard my days can be and how working is a nice break. I feel guilty when I say I didn’t feel like getting up to go to work, knowing that they had to work all week long.
I feel guilty that I am not the “perfect” stay at home mom. No, I didn’t breastfeed, I don’t use cloth diapers, I didn’t make my own baby food, and I don’t cook every meal from scratch. My house isn’t spotless and I always have laundry to do, but my daughter is healthy, that’s all that matters.
I feel guilty that my daughter doesn’t see me working. I feel guilty because she will think women are to stay at home with the kids. She doesn’t see me getting ready and working every day, so when she gets older I fear she will not realize that it is normal for moms to work.
I feel guilty that sometimes I want to go back to work. Did I just say that? Yes, I did. Sometimes, I just wish I could drop her off at daycare and let someone else deal with the teething or the fussy days.
I feel guilty that I am ready for a break. I am almost always ready to give her to someone else to take care of. When hubby gets home I am ready for him to take over for a while. I know he is tired from working, but I really want him to just take care of her for a while.
I feel guilty that I feel guilty. Sounds crazy right? Well, I think we all feel like this. We feel guilty because we should just be happy for what we have and stop feeling guilty. Every family has different situations and that is why we should stop feeling guilty and just be the best parent we can be.
The thing is, we all know that working parent have guilt, but we never think about the guilt that stay at home parents may have.
What do you feel guilty about as a stay at home mom or dad?